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News and Notes!
The Manival is coming to
The Simple Marriage Project next week. Check it out!
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Greetings,
Wow! It's
already June, the year is almost half over. Have you accomplished
almost half of this year's goals thus far? What's your plan to have
more adventure and passion in life and marriage?
If there is
anything we can do to help you, please send us an email.
Summer
plans are in full swing here at Marriage Fully Alive. Lots of travel
planned. Recently on the blog
I posed the question "what would you do during a month long adventure?"
There were many great ideas. It looks like my adventure is close to
being planned out. More details later.
Corey
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Tips
to keep the marriage rockin'!
Each week
there will be some tips, suggestions, or ideas intended to help keep
your marriage rockin'.
This week's
tip:
Have a candlelight dinner at home,
include the kids if necessary.
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10 Ways to
Improve Your Marriage While It's Raining
Your
environment has a dramatic impact on your mood. You wake up in the
morning and glance outside, the sun is up without a cloud in the sky,
you get in the sunny day mood. Perhaps you feel a bit more energy, You
want to get outside and enjoy the weather. On cold blustery days you
long to sit by the fire with something warm to drink, or the other
extreme of throwing on extra layers and playing in the snow. But
nothing has more impact than when it’s raining. If you’re like most of
us, you feel apathetic, tired, you want to crawl back into bed even
though you just climbed out 5 minutes earlier.
Let’s say it’s
been raining for several days in a row, you’re bored, cooped up, and to
top it off, so is your spouse. You’re feeding off each other’s mood.
It’s a vicious spiral.
Before you
reach the point of needing therapy in order to climb out of your
depression, recognize the weather’s influence on your mood. You are
stronger than the weather. You can’t control it, weather forecasters
can’t even accurately predict it, but you can choose how you
react to it. I have often thought about moving to Seattle and opening a
therapy practice specializing in depression, but I digress.
What if you
chose to try something with your spouse while it’s raining? Make the
most of the time. Here are few suggestions:
- Read. Seek out a
comfortable place for both of you and read. This can be to each other
or different books for each of you. Just be together. Sit by each
other. Intertwine your legs. You may fall asleep, that’s ok. Then you
both get to enjoy a nap. Nothing wrong with that.
- Sit on the porch.
My wife and I love to sit on our deck while it’s raining. It’s
wonderful to just sit together and listen to the rain. Add a cup of
something warm to drink and you’ve got a relaxing time together.
- Play a game. Break
open the game closet and play something together. Yahtzee, Monopoly, or
find a deck of cards. Interact. Have fun. You could even crank up the
Wii. Just play something together. No time pressures. Play.
- Talk. Plan
something for the future. Tackle an issue that’s been bugging you.
Catch up on your spouse’s life. Find a comfortable place to sit. Relax.
Have a conversation.
- Work around the house.
You are both already stuck inside. Finish some of the projects around
the house. Organize an area. Declutter. Go through your clothes and get
rid of things. When the sun returns, your house will be more organized
and simplified. A double boost of energy.
- Go for a walk.
Some of my wife and I’s favorite memories are of walking together in
the rain. We live by the saying: there’s no such thing as bad weather,
only bad gear. Even if you don’t have the gear to keep you completely
dry, so what. You’re not going to melt.
- Have sex. What
better way to break out of feeling down? Rain can be very romantic.
Light some candles. Maybe open the window a bit to hear the raindrops.
Climb into bed together and take your time. Maybe it’s time to
establish the “naked rainy day” policy with your spouse.
- Listen to good jazz.
While you don’t have to listen to jazz, turn on music you enjoy. Relax.
Add in any of the other ideas to this one. Good music often improves
whatever is going on together.
- Dance. This
naturally goes with the good music suggestion. In fact, this could lead
to another suggestion as well. Either way, dance with your spouse. Seek
them out and ask them to dance. It’s a great way to add spark to your
marriage.
- Watch a movie. Pop
some popcorn. Dim the lights. Cuddle with each other and turn on a good
movie.
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alive team is here to assist you and your spouse with becoming fully
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God Bless,
Marriage
Fully Alive® |
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